I am an avid listener to a podcast by Black Girl In Om. I am playing catch up, still listening to the last season. The most recent episode I listened to titled “10 Things I Know for Sure”, the hosts shared pieces in life that they feel they’ve mastered. It got me to thinking about what I know for sure in my own life, and more specifically what I know for sure about myself. This statement can be fit in many area of our lives, and is a great journaling topic. I’ve decided to make this somewhat of a series, each piece will focus on a different aspect of life. Today’s focus is 10 Things I Know For Sure….About Myself.
1. Traveling keeps me sane….
Although I don’t travel as much as I would like to, I seem to always take a trip at the right time. Usually around the time that I start feeling bored and need adventure. Travel is rejuvenating, and gives me a break from my day to day routine.
2. I’m not your typical 36 year old woman….
and I’m OK with that. I’m sure there are quite a few black women in their mid-thirties, no kids, never married and desires to live a nomadic lifestyle. I would be surprised if we were not in the minority.
3. I’ve never been more comfortable in my own skin as I am right now….
I figured this out when I began wearing crop tops non stop. I’ve always been petite and had the shape to wear them, but not the desire or boldness. I don’t know if it’s the natural hair that has made me more daring or what, but I love it.
4. I need some me time….
Like Heather Headley said “not some you and some I, just some me time”. I am very much an introvert and after spending hours around people, I need alone time to be revitalized.
5. I have the power to create my own reality…
I understand that if you don’t put in the work to have your ideal lifestyle, it won’t magically appear in your lap.
6. Creating jewelry makes me happy…
People spend a lifetime trying to figure out their passions, and I know that I am the happiest when I am making jewelry. I can get lost in designing for hours.
7. Quality over quantity is best in friendships…
My longest friendship has been 27 years, we met when we were 9 and I love her to death. Another friendship is 10+ years strong, and my other closest girls are my cousin and sister, which of course I’ve known them all my life. If I call you a friend that means you are very dear to me.
8. I’m OK with not being a mom….
All of my childhood fantasies involved me living in NYC and working in fashion, no children around. Because I have been without children for so long, I’m quite selfish and love being able to come and go as I please.
9. Going natural is one of the best decisions I’ve made so far….
I absolutely love being natural, it fits my personality so well. It’s been 6 years since my big chop, and honestly I can’t believe that I didn’t do this sooner in life.
10. Love truly has no color….
Dating outside of my race hasn’t happened yet, but I’m completely open to it. I know quite a few black women who have ventured out and they love it. It may happen to me next.
What do you know for sure?